This is my 24th blog, almost 1/2 of a year’s worth, and while you might not like and/or agree with what I write; It’s from the heart and it’s honest. I plan to continue that for the rest of the year. 🙂 After the CANDISC, my back and shoulders needed some work. Acting like a spring, or a shock absorber for the training and actual ride, left my “slightly” middle aged body needing a visit to the shop. My oldest son and his wife, in their wisdom, purchased a gift card for a massage, to someone who was reputed to “work you over really well”. Hey! Something to look forward to! 😉
I went for my first visit and was treated to a back and shoulder massage that left me more sore than when I had gone in, but it was a good sore; the muscles have lost their knots sore. Hopefully you know what I’m talking about. I went back two weeks later to have my upper arms and shoulders worked on; same great results. She was a bike rider too and we had a great rapport. During the course of the conversation, she intimated that she was gay. I followed that up asking about a partner and our conversation continued.
I shared with her that I had read the book “The Courage to Heal,” and while it didn’t suggest all Lesbians had been sexually assaulted, there were many testimonies, in the back of the book, from Lesbians who had been assaulted. I asked her what she thought about that and she told me she had the firm mind set that 50% of Lesbians loved woman, maybe genetics, while 50% of them hated men. I shared with her the story of a woman I knew who had been assaulted and said she just couldn’t trust men. We are sexual beings, so if you don’t trust men because of abuse, you are still a human being with the urges and needs of a human.
Now some of you may have already quit reading, but please let me continue. I’m not an authority on Gays, Lesbians, Bi’s etc. I only know what I’ve read or have been told, and I am chastised pretty thoroughly, although less than one might think, by people who disagree with me. I defend my gay friends and family and this is why. Men and women who assault other men, woman, and children in this country are allowed to marry in churches and allowed to have children, and to serve in the armed forces. Why do we think the victims (survivors) should bear the brunt of the burden, when the victimizers often go on about their lives with no consequences.
I am a Christian, but I am not God. I can speculate on what God thinks, judges and on what judgement he/she will pass on to others, but I don’t know what that will be or look like. I see all sinners, including myself and can only hope that there is mercy. I hope there is mercy for your sins as well. Some might say my argument is pretentious, based on experiences I know nothing about, but I would say, that in the social and political climate we are in right now…a climate that lacks the will to try and understand(from every perspective), that my trying to understand should be supported. We all know someone who is gay, or who is different from us, in some way. If you don’t see them, please look harder.
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I have 2 awesome Grands and a very special nephew that are gay and they are such great productive giving people…they struggled with acceptance more than the family. Wanting to come out. My nephew’s family struggled with acceptance for 20 years, until a death of another son…..